How mess around us affects our mood and home atmosphere
Every mother on maternity leave has probably heard a comment along the lines of sarcastic remarks about what she has been doing all day with the baby and why the house isn't clean when she's at home all day.
How many times has the partner been dissatisfied because the laundry wasn’t washed or ironed?
Dirty dishes pile up in the sink, which don’t wash themselves. Laundry sits in the dryer, forgotten, still damp, and you have to hang it up to dry.
Every mom can recall a moment when they reached the limit of their energy and it was difficult to take care of the baby while also keeping the household running smoothly.
It’s perfectly logical that every mom puts her child and their needs first. As a result, she often forgets what she planned to do and, worse, puts herself on the back burner.
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In today’s fast-paced world, it’s tough to manage everything smoothly and without any problems. But what we can do is avoid stress, chaos, tension, arguments, and shouting. Sooner or later, every mom realizes that routine and system are not our enemies, but great helpers.
Whether you’re at home on maternity leave or working outside, it’s useful to create a plan, write it down on paper, in a calendar, or have a “To-Do List” on the fridge to prepare for everything the next days will bring.
Doctors' appointments, picking kids up from activities, shopping, cleaning, parent-teacher meetings, etc.
Not to create pressure on yourself about everything you have to do, but rather, it's necessary to ensure everything runs smoothly, and if something unexpected happens, you have enough time for Plan B, avoiding unnecessary stress.
Few realize that mess is one of the key factors influencing our psyche and daily functioning.
An unorganized environment at home or in the office overwhelms our senses with a large number of visual stimuli that our brains are trying to process, which undoubtedly leads to reduced concentration.
Mess causes tension and stress
If you wake up each morning and the first thing you see is a pile of un-ironed laundry in the hamper, dirty dishes waiting for you in the kitchen, and hyperactive kids running around needing to be fed, you’re stuck in an endless chaos of duties and priority evaluation. It’s completely logical to feel frustrated, drained of energy, and tense from the pile of dishes and mess in the kitchen.
You don’t want to be in such an environment, especially not for breakfast.
On the other hand, kids need food.
You wonder how to get out of it: If you turn on the TV to let them watch a cartoon, you feel like a bad mom for letting them watch TV instead of immediately preparing breakfast.
If you don’t do it, they won’t give you the space to clean up the mess. The cycle of duties begins, and by the time morning comes, you're already looking forward to the evening.
You definitely don’t want your day to follow the famous slogan “the morning makes the day.”
Even kids can help with household chores, so don’t hesitate to involve them, of course, appropriate to their age.
The rule is: “What you learn in youth, you’ll find in old age.”
Don’t worry that you might be exploiting them. On the contrary, you’ll keep them busy, spend time together, and teach them good habits and skills.
When we live in a mess, our bodies react with stress, which increases the level of cortisol, the main stress hormone. Although it may seem like we’re immune to the chaos around us, on a subconscious level, our bodies react. Constant chaos and clutter can create a feeling of restlessness and tension, preventing us from relaxing and unwinding.
The result can also be frequent bursts of anger, inability to manage emotions, and subsequent guilt over our behavior.
What if I told you it could be different?
Imagine waking up every morning rested, full of energy, calm, and managing everything with ease and tranquility.
One of the key points is setting a routine, regularity, dividing responsibilities between household members, and the ability to plan.
When it comes to cleaning, it’s helpful to assign specific rooms to specific days and maintain regular order in them.
You can easily involve the kids in cleaning their rooms. It’s all a matter of habit, and this skill can be learned and perfected.
If you’re a fan of harmonious environments, you might want to try Feng Shui in your home or apartment, which is based on balancing energies, known as “qi,” to promote health, prosperity, and wellbeing.
As seen above, mess can greatly affect our mental health.
Every day is an opportunity for a new beginning.
The internet offers countless tips and advice, but the problem may be deeply rooted within you, and it may not be your fault that you live in a mess, because perhaps no one taught you how to organize your home, office, or clean regularly to achieve a permanently clean home.
Often, the problem is not laziness or unwillingness, but the fact that we fail to stick to our own plans and discipline. However, this is something that can be worked on!
Perhaps you’re afraid to ask for help because it might seem like a sign of weakness or incapability. Or you need support to find your voice, to say NO, and be heard. Simply put, to eliminate anything that negatively impacts your life. That’s why it’s essential to start with change within yourself. Address the cause and remove the blocks that lead to a life full of stress and chaos, one that you can’t escape, even though you desperately want to.
Because the outside world is a reflection of your inner world. Clutter around you points to unresolved issues within, asking for attention.
On this journey, Bach essences can help, and I can customize them to your preferences.
It’s clear that the mess won’t clean itself, and the main work will remain with you. However, with a clear mind, cleaning will go smoothly, and the feeling of a tidy and organized home? Priceless.