Breakups and mental health: how long does the sadness last?
We know which herb can soothe it
You met the one. At first, it felt like a fairytale – beautiful dates, nights filled with love, shared dreams about the future.
Gradually, your lives intertwined, and you became inseparable. Family celebrations, long conversations, shared joys and small worries - everything made sense.
But then the first storm came. And unfortunately, it wasn't the only one. You tried to save all the years you built together, you fought. But something changed, and it couldn’t be undone. And so it happened – the breakup.
Maybe you parted peacefully, with understanding, maybe you slammed the door and deleted their number. Either way, it always hurts the same. The days suddenly drag on painfully, you can’t sleep, your heart aches, and love feels like it vanished. We know how hard it is – that’s why we’re here to help you find your way out of the pain. Today's article is dedicated to all broken hearts, offering a healing embrace. Don’t worry, you’re not alone in this!
Why does breakup hurt so much?
A breakup isn’t just about losing a partner, but also about losing certainty, the future, and a piece of yourself. The pain you feel is completely natural because your brain perceives emotional pain similarly to physical wounds. So why does it hurt so much?
- Loss of security and certainty – Your partner was part of your life, plans, and daily rituals. Suddenly, they're not there, and you have to learn to live on your own again.
- Hormonal shock – Love triggers dopamine and oxytocin, which bring us happiness. After a breakup, their levels drop, which can lead to feelings of sadness, anxiety, and loneliness.
- Unanswered questions – You ask yourself: "Why don’t they love me anymore?" or "What could I have done differently?" And this uncertainty just prolongs the suffering.
- Stress and emotional strain – Constantly replaying memories and looking for mistakes from the past doesn’t help. If you feel anxiety taking over, M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Acute crisis - SOS drops can help you immediately, or other herbs for calming nerves. Such a huge mental strain naturally also affects our physical body, so give yourself extra doses of Vitamin C.
- Deep emotional bond – Your brain became accustomed to the closeness of your loved one, and when you lose it, you naturally feel emptiness and pain. Maybe you're feeling all kinds of emotions now that you can’t even name. Try M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Customized drops that help heal emotional wounds, whatever they may be.
How to recover quickly from a breakup? The first step is to allow yourself to grieve but also begin taking care of your mental health and inner peace. The pain is not permanent, and love will find you again!
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What to never do after a breakup?
A breakup hurts, and it’s easy to make mistakes in the heat of emotions that may only deepen the pain. Whether you’re trying to win your ex back or just quickly forget, some actions can hurt more than help. Here’s what to watch out for:
- Don’t beg for a second chance – If the relationship ended, it had a reason. Begging, making promises, and desperate messages like "Why don’t they love me anymore?" or "Can we try again?" will just prolong your suffering.
- Don’t drown in pain – Suppressing emotions only delays healing. Crying, feeling anger, or sadness is normal. But if you feel like you’re drowning in pain, Bach’s Depresol drops can help harmonize your psyche and manage a tough period when the pain lasts too long.
- Don’t stalk your ex on social media – Constantly watching what they do, who they’re with, and how they look in photos just deepens your pain and anxiety. It’s better to go on a digital detox and focus on yourself. Focus on what you’ve always loved. Maybe now’s the time to dive into it fully!
- Don’t try to drown the pain in a quick rebound relationship – Ignoring sadness with another person just creates more emotional chaos. Instead, try M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Customized drops that will greatly help with black-and-white views of the world. They can combine up to 7 emotional issues at once!
- Don’t stay in the past – Constantly replaying memories and thinking "what if" slows down your progress. Healing starts with acceptance – and even though it hurts, one day you’ll be grateful that you moved on.
- Alcohol isn’t the solution – Even though it may seem like an easy way out, in reality, it only temporarily distracts you from the pain, and then deepens it. It disrupts metabolism, disturbs emotional balance, and can cause greater mental and physical chaos than expected. Instead of nights with a bottle of wine, try spending time with friends and family who will help you share and heal in a healthier way.
Allow yourself to feel all your emotions, but don’t forget to take care of yourself. M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Acute crisis - SOS drops will help ease sudden emotional swings, stress, and internal tension. And don’t forget – this difficult period will pass.
How to recover quickly from a breakup
We’ve already talked about why breakups hurt, what happens in our brain, and why we feel the way we do. We’ve also recommended several herbs and natural products that can help with your mental health. Now let’s try a lesser-known technique from Buddhist teachings.
Local monks often refer to it as the “ritual of release.” Have you heard of it?
You’ll need paper, something to write with, a bowl, and a candle. Once you have everything, find a quiet spot at home where you feel comfortable and put on some gentle music. Then, write down on the paper:
- 10 things you were grateful for in the relationship
- 5 things you’ll do differently next time
- A few words of farewell to your partner – thank them for the time together and accept that everything is as it should be.
Hold the paper for a while, then close your eyes. Imagine standing in a beautiful place – spring is arriving, flowers are blooming all around, and you hear a waterfall behind a meadow. In the distance, you see your ex-partner coming towards you. You hand him the letter, smile, and hug him.
It’s your imagination, so allow yourself to feel relief and peace, even if that doesn’t come easily in real life.
When you’re ready, open your eyes and carefully burn the letter over the candle and the bowl. Watch how the ashes dissolve the pain. This ritual will help you close the past and move on with ease.
Breakup First Aid Kit: Bach Flower Remedies for Anxiety and SOS Crisis Drops
We’ve put together a so-called "last-resort box" for you. When your heart hurts so much that it drives you crazy.
M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Acute crisis - SOS drops – First aid for acute stress and sadness
- They quickly calm the mind and help you cope with sudden emotional drops. They relieve panic, anxiety, and emotional strain. They can be combined with custom Bach remedies and Depresol drops.
M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Customized drops – Long-term support for your emotions
- They can be mixed with up to 7 different emotional blocks, according to your situation. They help release the pain from the breakup, fear of the future, or feelings of rejection. They cannot be combined with Depresol drops, but can be combined with SOS drops.
Liquid Vitamin C – Protection for the body against stress and exhaustion
- It strengthens the immune system, which weakens under mental strain. It contributes to the normal function of the nervous system and helps relieve fatigue and exhaustion..
M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Depresol – Support for long-term sadness and melancholy
- They help with deeper loss of motivation, anxiety, and feelings of emptiness. They provide relief for long-lasting sadness when regular techniques don’t help. They can only be combined with SOS drops, not with custom remedies.
M.E.G therapy dr. Bach - Sleep – For a peaceful night without thoughts of the past
- They help calm the mind before sleep when memories keep running through your head. They reduce night anxieties and promote deeper, restorative sleep. They can only be combined with SOS drops, not with custom remedies or Depresol.
We’re here for you. You’ll get through this.
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