SERIES | WEIGHT LOSS: 3 stories that will change how you see your body fat - PART 1
Three friends meet up - Anna, Petra, and Zita. They're excitedly chatting about life, but eventually, the conversation shifts to something that deeply bothers them all. They have the same problem.
They’ve gained weight and can’t seem to lose it...
Most men would probably offer a simple solution.
But what if these women are already doing the best they can within the chaos of their busy lives?
They may not eat perfectly, but it’s definitely not donuts for breakfast, fast food for lunch, and chips for dinner.
They’re not running marathons, but they do yoga, walk their dogs, bike, scoot, and swim.
So, what else could be the problem?
Take a look at the stories of all three friends.Do you see yourself in any of them?
Anna’s story
Anna is a manager overseeing 150 people and also a mom to three young school-aged kids.
It’s important for her to have a clean home, cook healthy meals, stay active, help the kids with schoolwork, and drive them to their activities.
To keep up with everything, she sleeps just 4 hours a night , sometimes 5 if she’s lucky.
Her body is constantly under extreme stress from the lack of sleep.
Anna doesn’t see where she could ease up. Everything needs to be perfect, prepared, organized, and done. She doesn’t know how to slow down or lower her standards. She only knows how to give 100%. The constant pressure and stress cause her body to store fat. Eating better and exercising more won’t help. She needs to relax, lower her expectations, and slow down.
But that won’t happen just by telling herself to relax.
What controls her is a deeply ingrained pattern that’s been with her since she was about five years old.
Maybe back then, she tried to be the "good girl"—perfect and well-behaved—to get attention and love. She was only praised for her achievements. She learned that to be valued, she had to perform. Simply "being" wasn’t enough.
Low self-esteem and a lack of self-love keep her stuck in this exhausting cycle.
- Petra’s story
Petra leads a completely different life. She’s mindful, loves her body, and doesn’t look for quick fixes.
She has a job she loves and thrives in a creative flow daily. She takes time off, travels, and enjoys life. She eats consciously, knows what makes her body feel good, and stays active.
But there’s one hidden obstacle you wouldn’t guess just by looking at her...
She’s afraid of attention.
She often wears loose, pastel-colored clothing to blend in, to not stand out or draw attention. The few extra pounds she carries act as a shield, protecting her from the gaze of others.
If she lost weight, she’d attract more attention—and that terrifies her. She blushes easily, gets nervous, and doesn’t know where to look or what to do. Back in high school, a teacher humiliated her in front of the entire class, and everyone laughed. That moment still haunts her, waking her up in a cold sweat during full moons.
Would running more or eating healthier help Petra?
Definitely not.
Petra needs to release the emotion stuck in her body since she was 16.
Once that emotional wound heals, she won’t fear attention anymore—and the extra weight will no longer need to be there.
- Zita’s story
Zita has two kids, but even before pregnancy, she wore size XL. Her grandmother always said she was so skinny as a child that you could barely see her—nimble as a cat, flexible as a monkey, and fast as a cheetah.
But she carries deep scars, both emotional and physical, from her childhood...
Her father had a bad temper and his own unresolved issues. Her "restless" nature as a little girl would drive him mad. As a result, Zita started suppressing her natural playfulness and energy—and over time, she also started gaining weight.
Physically, her body began building a defense system. Her belly fat acted as a shield, protecting her vulnerable heart and organs. Extra padding on her hips and backside served as armor against her father’s outbursts, even his belt.
As Zita grew up, similar patterns repeated in her life. She found herself in relationships with men who ended up being controlling or even abusive.
Though she’s done a lot of inner work—understood her father, forgiven him—her body still holds the emotional imprint.
If Zita wants to shed the extra weight, she’ll need to release the stuck emotions—feelings
of betrayal, pain, fear—that remain trapped inside her.
What do these women have in common?
They all store fat due to unresolved emotions.
This concept is real—emotional weight refers to fat stored in the body due to unprocessed emotions.
Stress and emotional buildup can trigger the body to store fat in stubborn areas.
It’s all connected—the mind, emotions, and hormones.
This fat often acts as a defense mechanism, insulating us from emotional pain, fear, and trauma.Unprocessed emotions can lead to physical symptoms—like stubborn weight that won’t budge no matter how clean you eat or how hard you exercise.
Long-term stress, childhood trauma, or emotional wounds from past relationships can disrupt hormone balance, weaken the immune system, and negatively impact overall health.
This connection is at the core of psychosomatic medicine, which studies the link between mental and physical health.
Excess weight can often be the body’s way of protecting itself—from emotional pain, criticism, fear, or even from the world itself.
Healing emotional weight involves shifting limiting beliefs, recognizing emotional needs, and breaking free from harmful patterns.
Many psychologists today help clients dig beneath their extra pounds to uncover the emotional roots hiding under the surface.They guide people to identify and understand their emotions, helping them process past traumas. Do not lost hope!
Is there hope without years of therapy?
Maybe you felt a flicker of hope reading this—only to feel discouraged at the thought of endless therapy sessions to finally uncover the root cause of your weight struggles.
But don’t lose hope - I have a faster (and effective) solution.
Luckily, there’s been a shift toward working directly with emotions instead of endlessly digging into past traumas.
Why is processing emotions more effective?
Because simply uncovering the trauma isn’t enough.
Sure, recognizing where the pain comes from brings clarity—but the stuck emotion in your body remains.
And that emotion is what’s keeping the weight in place.
Let’s say you realize that the belly fat you carry is there because your father was harsh and critical, and your body built a “protective shield” against similar emotional attacks.
You’ve found the cause—but that alone won’t make the fat go away.
The trapped emotion—the hurt, betrayal, fear—still lingers in your body. It needs to be released.
Otherwise, your body will keep holding onto the weight to "protect" you. And chances are, future partners might even mirror your father's behavior—triggering the same emotional wounds again and again.
They will unknowingly remind you of deeply buried wounds and trigger familiar emotions. That’s why I recommend focusing on releasing old emotions from the body. This will not only resolve excess weight but also improve self-love, respect for your own body, and self-worth, ultimately putting an end to relationships with men who didn’t value or respected you.
The solution to emotional weight is not more exercise and a perfect diet, but rather releasing emotions from the body.
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